Domestication

On another site there is the discussion about "asking, teaching, and training vs communication. Directly leading into the pros and cons of "pressure" when we ask, teach, or train.
I very much appreciate the "resistance" I get from my "statements". It helps me clarify my integrity and it leads me to ..... better communication. Especially when the "gap is vast".
Is there such a thing as communication without asking, teaching, and training? In the human world it is very rare. Without our "domestication" (root word - dominate) the horses live there quite comfortably. As do most undomesticated animals.
My "Do not touch" model simulates that place - if just for a moment. It works best for the "care giver" types because it is most difficult for them. Yet they have the greatest opportunity to "cross that gap". IF(!) and when they will 'play by the rules' long enough for the rules to no longer be necessary.
Can you REFLECT (see, honor, empathize, etc.) and not CORRECT. Can you play with your child and NOT turn it into a "teaching moment"? Can you respond to your horse and NOT turn it into a "training moment"? - or a statement about who is dominate.  Can you see another being and not try to "improve" on it? Can you  communicate with your spouse without "asking for" a specific response? Can you receive and not give? Can you see and not project?
Why should/would you want to?
Because that IS the language of the horse. If we are drawn to them at all it means they "have something we want". That "something" is the ability to see without projection. Without judgement. Freedom from "getting it right". Pure unadulterated Truth. Authenticity. Choose your own buzz word.
It is simply not helpful to change what we find most valuable in the horse. Killing the goose that laid the golden egg?????
Why should/would you want to? How can I possibly describe with words  - what happens to US when this shift happens!!!!!! The strength we gain! The empowerment! I am speechless .........
We give the horse credit for this ..... gift and yet it is our own "communication without asking, teaching, and training"  that makes the difference. On the outside - the difference is getting what you 'want' without ...... pressure. Without "training" or "teaching" what the response should/must be. You WILL get to where you want to be - because, after all, the horse is a horse.